“Making it” in
America – or almost anywhere in the
universe – is both deceptively easy and deceptively hard. As I’ve sought to break the code on why some
people “make it” but many don’t, several recurring themes have surfaced as
fundamental to successful passage. A
beginning list follows … in no particular order of importance:
1.
We need to have an ever-expanding wellspring of ideas,
possibilities and reference points to feed an evolving course of ever-advancing
personal development. This requires
ardent “mining” of the universe for all the raw material we can get our heads
and hands around to support the effort and to build a solid reserve of
justifiable HOPE. This is where our “unscheduled time” becomes
so valuable … in mining.
2.
We need to have onboard a workable set of values
and principles to help “curate” raw material and to help guide
processing and actions beneficial to the enterprise of “Becoming all that we can be.”
3.
We need VISION … an ability to “see”
beyond the horizon … to Dream large Dreams … to imagine and flesh-out a
blueprint for a brighter, better, more brilliantly encompassing future.
4.
We need a resolute trouble-shooting and problem-solving
ability.
5.
We need balanced, right-reckoning judgment
to tie the application of values and principles to specific actions in specific
circumstances, particularly to new and different circumstances, and
particularly where risk is involved. Curiosity,
exploration and risk are essential components of a creative and expressive life,
but choices can make us or break us.
6.
We need boundaries to eliminate judgment-lapse
over-rides – such as from emotional triggers, “Pleasure Center” usurpations, rationalizations
and/or conscriptable entitlements. (How
about donuts & Ding Dongs, drinking and driving, texting and driving … and
a whole bunch else?) Not all of us
(ANY?) can be trusted to do the “right thing” in all circumstances. [“But,
if it’s beyond temptation, how can it be considered ‘Sinful’?”] So we need boundaries.
7.
At some point, we need to “morph” into
mature adults and complete the transformation from self-serving,
self-centered, “Neanderthal”-indulgent, small-pond, tribal malcontents to fully
fledged, fully engaged, duly contributing citizens of the universe.
8.
We need discipline to focus our efforts
most productively and avoid distractions fueled by impulse. Discipline requires the sacrifice of junk
bond indulgences for blue chip investments.
It generally means leaving some very attractive stuff behind!
“You have to give up good to get great.”
Glen Campbell
“The only barriers to success
were [lack of] discipline and the extent of one’s talent.”
Doris Kearns Goodwin
“Team of Rivals” p. 28
9.
We are well-served to have purpose, a mission
and the passion to carry it forward locked-in for sustainable pursuit of
the highest caliber endeavors.
10. We
need perseverance to get us through the toughest, roughest patches … “through
“thick and through thin”.
11. While
talent helps immensely, we need carefully honed marketable skills and tools
with which to contribute OUR portion to the fabric of the universe. Underdeveloped talent is a mendicant’s curse.
12. We
need openness and open-mindedness – even to a point of vulnerability,
with a receptivity to new and different ideas … to constantly emerging “new
realities” … and to the most encompassing outlook and understanding of the
universe possible. A willingness to give
up unworkable hypotheses, unfounded assumptions, unrealistic expectations and
unwarranted entitlements is the mark of true champions.
13. We
need legitimacy … a well-established legacy of trust, dependability
and accountability. This has to
be solidly built and consistently expanded for the duration.
14. We
need authenticity … with transparent, “what-you-see-is-what-you-get”, no
excuses consistency. [e.g., it’s OK to say “I don’t know … but I
aim to find out” and “I was wrong … but I’ll make it right.”]
15. We
need engagement within a community where there is mutual respect, a
diversity of resources, challenges to rise to excellence, a diversity of
talent, encouragement, accountability, and affirmation. All other things being equal – and equanimity
clearly in play, diversity of opinion doesn’t hurt.
16. Initiative.
Without a generative “Drive-to-Do”, very
little of the big and tough stuff will ever get done.
17. A
sense of urgency. Doing stuff
“later” is like not doing it at all.
18. An
attitude of helpfulness, positive, participative engagement, and inclination
to work toward a common good or goal ... a greater good.
19. Resilience. The world is changing at an ever-increasing
pace. We have to be flexible and adjust
quickly or be left behind. Plans get
dashed, jobs get lost, disasters happen, etc.
So we have to find ways to pick ourselves up, get back in the race and
keep going. Our ability to function
off-balance and our ability to regain balance quickly – keeping our focus
firmly on brighter horizons ahead – is critical. (See 21 below)
20. Experience. Everything we do adds to our knowledge base
as well as to our track record. Those
things we do well, we try to replicate and do even more and better in the
future. Those things we do not-so-well,
we learn from and either do differently or do better or hand-off to someone who
can. Experience informs our forward
passage and legitimizes the currency we carry.
21. Associations. We’re not going to get where we need to go or
be by our own reckoning and by “pulling ourselves up by our own bootstraps”. Significant others are essential in vision
building, mission and purpose building, navigation, bridge-building, mentoring,
applying “refining fire”, complementing our strengths, invigoration and
resilience. (NOTE: “Who knows YOU” – and
what you can do – is even more important than “Who you know”!)
22. Patience. The good stuff takes time, it takes
incubation and simmering, and – often – it takes trial-and-error modeling and
maceration. Starting EARLY helps validate / justify, develop and deliver a
methodical approach and a masterful outcome.
23. Generative
Regeneration. Stephen Covey calls it
“Sharpening the Saw”. It’s refilling the
reservoir and renewing the spirit. It
means reconnecting with our greater mission and purpose and expanding the scope
of our horizons. It’s sharpening our
skills and adding to our knowledge base.
It includes any spark of inspiration we can find along the way … one of
the reasons we have to keep “mining” (see #1).
Numerous additional fundamentals may help. But these will get us started.
[For a summation of
fundamental SOFT SKILLS needed, including many of the above,
You want the shorthand version … the Cliff Notes? [This is the “deceptively hard” part!]
Lock in a PURPOSE, a MISSION, a PASSION, put your UNSCHEDULED
TIME to use in “mining” toward those ends, and then simply …
“Do what you’re supposed to do,
and life will turn out the way it’s supposed to be.”
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